Respect your parents in their old age ... — Heart Touching Story
An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.
The Father asked his Son, “What is this?” The Son replied “It is a crow”. After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, “What is this?” The Son said “Father, I have just now told you “It’s a crow”. After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, What is this?” At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son’s tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. “It’s a crow, a crow”.A little after, the Father again asked his Son the 4th time, “What is
this?”
This time the Son shouted at his Father, “Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times ‘IT IS A CROW’. Are you not able to understand this?”
A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary :-
“Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child”.
While the little child asked him 23 times “What is this”, the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.
So..
If your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble and kind to them. Be considerate to your parents.From today say this aloud, “I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child. They have always showered their selfless love on me.
They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today”. Say a prayer to God, “I will serve my old parents in the BEST way. I will say all good and kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave.
Thanks for spending your time on reading this story……
Hope YOU are forwarding this to all your friends.
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Touching Story
ReplyDeleteWell said. Both of my parents have passed away, but I hope my children will be wiser for reading this.
ReplyDeletehopefully my children will remember me now that I am old and useless to them . but I still love them very much they are my life
ReplyDeleteA parent's age never causes them to be useless. They are the only people in the world who will always love you unconditionally.
DeleteYou are never useless! You will always be a source of wisdom, love and encouragement! Get excited about the possibilities of service to others.
DeleteI want spend time with my parents all the time. But I am far away from my hometown. I love my parents and I wished that I could help them when they are unable to their daily tasks.👪😔
DeleteIt's a heart touching story as well as moral.
DeleteIf I could turn back time; I would hug my parents and tell them how much I love them and miss them so much, may God keep them in his golden home enjoying themselves alone with my 2 brothers and my sister. I love you all for ever, please be happy!!!
ReplyDeletewhen your parents are old you need to spend as much time as you can with them . they look forward to seeing you because they don't see many of there friends any more.so when you visit them you make there day. so please don't seeing your parents.
ReplyDeleteI like my kids, Emily and James, to read this. They have me blocked.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear that they have blocked you. Have someone that your friends with send it to them. Someday they will have regrets and it might be to late. Pray for them because nothing is impossible for God. Praying the wall will be torn down and everything mended. God Bless You! ��
DeleteIt is a very cruel thing to do; blocking off a parent. Children forget the struggles and sacrifices father and mother went through bringing them up. A friend's son got educated through a blessing of a govrnment scholarship to university. Feeling that he owed nothing to his father, his action of turning against them is a reflection of ingratitude a dog finds hard to understand.
Deletejust paSSING THIS ON....................................................................................
DeleteRespect the age. We are also going to be old tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteAMEN
DeleteI hope this will happen
ReplyDeletesomething all children should learn to do no matter how old we get as children..., respect your parents, wish some of my older so called siblings new how...
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing this nice story
ReplyDeletethank you
ReplyDeleteI just recently lost my Mom, I would let her ask me the same qquestion again like she did. I always thought, I hope that someday someone would let me too. I would hope they would be patience.
ReplyDeleteI have lost my both parents but no regret, ihave show my very best for them in my little way i have said how i love and thank them for every thing that they have done to my life, and not for both of them i was in this place i belong today THANK YOU FOR EVERY THING.
ReplyDeleteLove and care your parents like they have done to you. They are the only one who loves you unconditionally...
ReplyDeleteThe father had to explain to his son because the son did not know that its called a crow. But now the father knows what its called, still he is asking the same question. I know the thought behind this story is very nice, but just be a little creative next time to spread your message.
ReplyDeleteThe father apparently had memory issues. It is certainly not uncommon for elderly parents to repeat the same question over and over again. How you answer them is your measure as a human being.
DeleteMany, many elderly people have problems with memory, especially short term memory. They will ask the same question over and over again, simply because they don't remember what you just told them. How you respond to them is your measure as a respectful and loving human being.
DeleteOne of the points is that the father knows that "it" is a crow, but his memory has faded. I am 79 years young and many times I cannot remember if I ate breakfast, or fed the dogs etc. Patience is requirement with our children and with our parents.
DeleteGood reply. If they are luck enough to live that long, they may be in the same "boat" that we are in. I like one of the responses that parents taught their children how to use a spoon - Now they shouldn't mind teaching us how to "save" a document. My children taught me how to do Christmas card labels on the old computer - this new computer doesn't do it the same way so I am just running a copy of last year's label sheet.
DeleteReally, anonymous. You may think you're smarter, but you're really just a dumbass.
ReplyDeleteReally a true one....
ReplyDeleteWhat of your patents abused you and didn't show you love?
ReplyDeleteI am sorry for your abuse. It can leave scars that last throughout your life. If you dwell on that abuse it will fester. Try to forgive them for their ignorance in failing to show you love. Break the cycle and show your love throughout your life. Doing good things forever brings a smile to your face.
DeleteI know a woman who was neglected, dropped off at relatives houses, and simply not taken care of....when her mother needed help she jumped right in and took care of her. I asked if she was mad at her mom because of the way she was treated as a child. Her response was that she didn't like how her mom treated her but it was still her mom. She treated her with kindness and respect. She was poor and was always trying to make ends meet. I have so much respect for her....
DeleteI wish my 26 year old daughter would read this.
DeleteDear frnd
DeleteThink of yur prnts s humans wid thr own share of follies . Remove dem from d pedastl of d high throne of perfction n think de wer humans too. It hppns smtyms .Let go n b loyal to yourself....
Love to yu
I love them anyway.
ReplyDeleteRespect the age. We are also going to be old tomorrow.
DeleteLesson to be followed by today's younger generation- MVD
ReplyDeleteLesson to be followed by today's younger generation- MVD
ReplyDeleteSo true.
ReplyDeleteI am 57 years old not everyone had a parent such as this. I remember my mothers words "I hate you and wish you had never been born." Today I care for her still not because she loved me or cared for me but because I love her.
ReplyDeleteI admire your steady love 57 year old, we must do right even when treated wrong, bless you and your mother:)
DeleteYou will be blessed because of it....honor thy mother and thy father that thy days on this earth may be long.
Deleteit is very true.
DeleteTo anonymous above who loved his/her Mom even though she was verbally abusive, just know that you are a fine person
ReplyDeleteYou broke my heart a little when I read what you wrote. Honoring your mother will surely be rewarded one day. Best to you
my mom has early dementia and will ask the same question 4 or 5 times in 10 minutes, myself and my dad are very patient and loving to her, but thank you for this story as it really does put it into perspective.
ReplyDeletegary houck. very true,remenber "TIME IS A THIEF; LIFE IS SO BRIEF.
ReplyDeleteThank you very much for posting this. ito ay para sa nakakatanda kong kapatid, basahin mo ang storia na ito sana maisip mo kong ano ang ginawa mo sa magulang mo.
ReplyDeleteGreat Story Hope this is an eye opener for the present day generation.
ReplyDeleteThat's right, we should love our parents, but it needs a lot of patience and endurance to take care of them. It is easy to be nice when one only visits one's parents once in a while. I sympathize with those who look after their parents every day. Sometimes I think I would die before her.
ReplyDeleteThis is ringing really close to home right now! I have lots of good qualities, but patience, is not my best. I know I need to work on this with my mom. Caregiving is a very exhaustive, but ultimately rewarding undertaking. It's the little things that trip you up, the questions, the phone calls asking the same thing, etc. But I will try to do better, that's a promise I make to myself.
ReplyDeleteMy own mom did this in her last years of life, and I, too, had problems with my patience... My wife took me aside one day and said, "Just treat each question as if it's the first time she asks it - because, to her, it is". It took a little while to let go of viewing the questions as something I was dealing with, to things she was dealing with, but when I finally got it down I was able to be more patient with her. She died last October. I'm glad that I don't carry a load of guilt around about how badly I treated the one who brought me through all the things a child goes through throughout life. I understand that not everyone has had good relationships with their parents... I wish they had. I am just so grateful to have been born to a mother and father who loved my 3 brothers and me so unconditionally, and who imparted that legacy of love of family unto all 4 of us.
DeleteOh for a visit !!!
ReplyDeletewish my parents were around,,,,wish they were here......sad .... lonely.....
ReplyDeleteGr8 We should not ignore ever our aged parents any time .they are GOD for us.
ReplyDeleteBy their only good wishes and Blessings we have reached upto this place.
Really very heart touching story indeed.
What if your parents are genuinely annoying, degrading, emotionally & physically abusive? How is it not a measure of your humanness to acknowledge and express your genuine feelings. Since when does being a parent justify operating within a manufactured, illusion-based relationship with your fellow human beings/children?
ReplyDeleteTo answer your question directly, there is never a "justification" for treating others poorly--parent to child, child to parent, etc. It is also clear that 2 wrongs do not make a right. So treating someone badly in "retaliation" for being treated poorly is certainly not the answer. Holding a grudge is not the answer either--you wind up old and bitter, with an ugly personality. If you know someone has treated you poorly, it is not always the answer to respond. Indeed, knowledge may be knowing a thing, but wisdom is knowing whether to say or share that idea/thought thing. Some things are better left unsaid, and indeed there is a power and inner strength that we acquire by allowing negative energy to die within us, as opposed to the easier, weaker approach of blurting out negative energy in response to receiving it.
DeleteI went through a very ugly divorce- I have 3 sons and 2 of them sided with their father. They deleted me from their lives- One has two daughters and I am not allowed at any of the family functions and haven't even met one granddaughter.
DeleteWe sent toys and clothes for them for xmas and we never get a reeponse. I have no idea about trying to change the situation when neither will speak with me.
Most (notice I said most & not all) people parent as they were parented. Parenting doesn't only mean our children, but also our parents as they age. For with age all of us will eventually revert back to that young child stage. A stage of needing help feeding, dressing & asking that same question hundreds of times a day. Just as YOU did when you were young. Think back as to how you treated your own children when they were young instead of trying to justify why you should treat aging parents poorly. Think about it.
ReplyDeleteawesome story!
ReplyDeleteOf course, not all fathers are kind and patient like the one with the diary in this story. Some are abusive monsters that beat their sons, cripple them and abuse them emotionally and psychologically. Those fathers DO NOT DESERVE ANY RESPECT AT ALL.
ReplyDeleteSir can I make a short film on this. If you're permission.
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I wish my parents had the chance to reach old age. I lost my mom at 7 and my dad at 30. Sometimes life isn't fair.
ReplyDeleteI am far away from my hometown. But I wished that I could help my parents when they are un able to do daily tasks. ����❤
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